I am a techgal,I love technology, am a fan of social media but there’s just a limit to what it can do in terms of corrupting our virtues.
Facebook Is Just one of the many social media sites that has given us a new way to communicate with others. It Is used to keep up with trending topics in others lives in a quick and creative way.
Unfortunately, sin and temptation lead us beyond appropriate relationship boundaries using these social media sites as a means of intimate communication with people outside of our marriages.
Let us be careful how we use facebook and other social sites. Talk to your spouse about boundaries and keep each other accountable to the exclusivity of intimacy in your marriage.
I love facebook! I have up to date pictures from my friends, prayer requests,my former classmates talk to me about what college their attending and so much more fun stuff. I have met very good friends on the platform.I love all that fun communication!
I also don’t like facebook. I don’t like when someone writes something distasteful, or posts pictures that are not appropriate, I dont like the gossip or negative ethnicity but most of all I don’t like what it does to the marriage institution.
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A few months back James came home from work and told his wife,Rita, about how he had asked the wife (Essy)of an old high school buddy if her husband (John) had email(on Facebook). Essy soon told James they were divorced but it didn’t end there. She went on about how she was abused and abused by him .James told his wife Rita all of this conversation. She told James to be careful, because she was giving too much intimate information and she could be trying to suck him in to her life.
The husband, feeling very secure in their loving wonderful marriage of 12 years said she was right and he would be careful.
Well unknown Rita the conversations kept going and going. Her husband James says he thought he was helping her by listening. She just kept pulling him in by heaping on the personal information. After a while Rita started having this strange feeling that something wasn’t right. She had her husband’s password to his account (due to trust and accountability) on facebook. So about 11:30am during the weekday(with a strong feeling), she logged on his account and looked at his messages. What she didn’t realize was James was chatting with her right then! She stopped breathing for a second, she felt her whole world spin out of control.
This is what she read…….
“I’m sorry you’re hurting” her husband , James
“I hurt all the time, people have said they love me but they don’t really.” Ess
“I love you” James
“I wish I was with you” Ess
“You are my everything. I want to make everything alright for you.” James
“I wish I would have met you earlier, you are a gentleman” Ess
“Me too. xoxoxo” James
She was angry , devastated. She decided to call him and confront him on his friendship with Ess.She was still in front of the computer and as she was talking to him he wrote to her…
“I got to go somehow my wife found our conversations.I will have to delete them. I will talk later. Love you.” James
Ess wrote “Uh oh, you’re in trouble now.”
James told Rita he was coming home. She had twenty minutes to think. She started packing. Her stuff and her two kids stuff. She was shaking and crying. She thought their marriage was so good. They love God, they love each other they love their kids. They go on dates, they talk to each other, they share, they hold hands, they do things for each other. How could this be? She warned him! How could he do this to God, her, to them, to their kids?
James came home and they talked and talked (Ok, she yelled and yelled). He said he thought he could help Ess feel better without getting involved ,He said he thought he was strong enough to handle it. That he was a strong enough Christian to help her. He thought because he loved his wife so much he couldn’t get sucked in. He could just be a friend and help her.
This had rocked her marriage to the core,trust was broken,their marriage vows shaken,the wife he was supposed to protect and shield was hurting.God holds him accountable for his marriage He begged, pleaded, and most of all he learned a huge lesson.
No One Is Strong Enough!Marriage couples must stand in guard in Christ,lest they too become lured by the strong pull of the world.
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Phenomenally human 